People thinking you are gay may be a compliment
A lot of people get repulsed by the thought of a homosexual orientation. I’ve met many different reasons they had.
The most common one was that it’s not “normal”, but then nobody can go any further to explain why something ubiquitous can’t be defined as normal.
Other friends suggested that it’s nonreligious and unnatural since the man and the woman are here on Earth to reproduce and have children. But then there are so many men-women couples who biologically can’t have children for many reasons.
Others say: “Fine, be whatever, just don’t throw it in my face!”. But as you get to know more gay people, surprisingly little of them DO throw it in your face. You may not even know that already very close people to you are actually gay. They themselves may not know it yet, and it’s not an exact science — it’s feelings.
For these and many more reasons I’ve not yet encountered, people get easily offended if somebody thinks they look, talk or behave gay while they obviously define themselves straight.
I have many gay friends, some of them even my closest. I want to summarize many personal qualities they all share:
- They enunciate, speak clearly and correctly.
They rarely use slang. They like to call things with their established names rather than invent new words for them.
- They are generally feeling happy and content (hence, the word “gay”)!
My closest friend shared once that their relationships seem more stable via lack of conflicts and verbal misunderstandings, caused by the difference between men’s and women’s reflection of things happening to them. He is not saying they never fight — only way less frequent and about way less petty things.
- They dress elegantly, yet are not too much into their looks.
They generally try to feed appropriately on account of their health as opposed to their looks. I think we can learn a lot about self-health care in their ways.
- They are commonly well-read and highly educated.
Many people believe that knowledge and the ability to solve logical problems are reciprocally related. That may be true as studies of early development in children show. It doesn’t matter whether my gay friends had chosen the exact science path or the literature one. They are all loaded with knowledge in their fields. This makes them very expressive. They know things and easily understand the rest they don’t know about.
- Concentration! Wow, these people are sharp!
Most of the gay people I know keep themselves at one thing at a time. They dislike and generally don’t believe in multitasking. And it’s well-known that multitasking is a myth. Even computers “multitask” by frequently switching between different jobs. However, we are not computers. We lose attention span every time we switch between tasks.
- Speaking of jobs — JOBS.
Commonly gay people have great careers. Responsible jobs! Lawyers, doctors, engineers, etc. That makes perfect sense. A well-read person being able to concentrate on the task at hand, generally looking representative and talking nice to people makes a very valuable worker.
- They know how to party!
As little anxiety you experience going through life, you become a more fun person to be around. Gay people are above many things they can’t control. As soon as they come out of the closet, they have to deal with a lot of hate. It’s always going to be there, so why care about it? Releasing. Beautiful.
So why would people think you may be gay? That’s right!
Haters subconsciously admit all those superiorities. Actually, whenever somebody resents a person or group of people for no particular reason, it’s because of inferiority.
Next time anybody asks me “Are you gay?”, I’d reply: “No, but thank you!”
As for those people who are:
Cheers!